Child-on-Child Sexual Abuse occurs when a child engages in sexual behaviour with another child who is younger, smaller, or less powerful. This is different from normal childhood sexual exploration, which can be a natural and normal part of growing up. CoCSA can include sexual touching, fondling, or even penetration. It can have long-lasting emotional and psychological effects on the victim.

Parents might hold misconceptions about child-on-child sexual abuse due to various factors, including societal beliefs, lack of awareness, or misunderstanding of the dynamics involved. There’s a common misconception that only adults can perpetrate sexual abuse, overlooking the fact that children can also exhibit harmful behaviour towards other children. Additionally, parents fear social stigma or blame if their child is either the victim or the perpetrator, which is a major reason for their reluctance in acknowledging or addressing the issue.

Here we address four common misconceptions about Child-on-Child Sexual Abuse.

Misconception #1: Child-on-child sexual abuse is not as serious as child sexual abuse with an adult.

Thats not true. CoCSA can cause significant emotional, psychological, and social harm to both the victim and the perpetrator. The effects can vary depending on the severity and duration of the abuse.

Misconception #2: If my child is with other kids of the same age, so there can be no sexual abuse.

A child can abuse another kid of the same age (or even older) who may be smaller or less powerful. Parents must understand the power dynamics involved between the victim and perpetrator.

Misconception #3: This is normal curiosity and sexual exploration between kids. It’s not abuse.

Curiosity about their bodies and exploration are natural for children. But if it is forced on another child and not age-appropriate, then it is abuse. Parents might misinterpret abusive behaviour for normal sexual curiosity or development, leading to confusion and uncertainty about whether to intervene.

Misconception #4: In a case of child-on-child sexual abuse, it is always the older child’s fault.

No. Age is not the only criterion. We must consider the power dynamics, coercion, manipulation, and the influence of size, or developmental differences between the children involved. Additionally, there is also a misconception that if a male and female child are involved, it is always the male child’s fault. That is also not always the case. Gender is also not the only criterion for judging the abuse.

Addressing these misconceptions involves education, open communication, and creating a safe environment for discussing sensitive topics related to child behaviour and safety. Encouraging open dialogue about boundaries, consent, and appropriate behaviour can help parents better understand and address the complexities of child-on-child sexual abuse.